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Yes They're Fake... My Real Ones Tried to Kill Me!

Yes They're Fake... My Real Ones Tried to Kill Me!These past couple of months have been tough, really tough.  My tenacious spirit has been stretched beyond limits.  I've been knocked down, defeated, and even depressed at times (which is just not me).  And while I wouldn't invite such troubles into my life, they've managed to slip through an open door without my consent.  My human frailty has risen to the top like cream and it's spilling over into every area of my life.   

Last week, I was on needles and pins.  After my biopsy, it was time to drive back from CA to Oregon for a quiet reprieve.  I've always found comfort in familiarity.  My surroundings provide a sense of peace, and my cushy bed and pillow offer a cozy resting place too.  Southern Oregon has become my retreat and I feel blessed to live in the Pacific Northwest.   

When I arrived home, I had a hankering (I love that word) to visit my favorite boutique in Medford Oregon called Prism.  Not so much for the shopping, but for the friendship exchanged with the gals who work there.  We know each other by name and we've shared a common bond of friendship over the years.  When I walked in the door, they said... 'Mel, where have you been?'  We shared stories and through laughter and small talk, I began to unwind from my 10-hour drive from Cali. 

Then, a young gal entered the store.  She was immediately greeted with the same question... 'Where have you been?'  I knew instantly that she was a regular too.  I eavesdropped a little as she told an all too familiar story...  She was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and she just had a radical mastectomy of both breasts.  She said, 'I'm 38 years old and I'm lucky to be alive.'        

I was so touched by her story and her beaming spirit, that I walked up to her and said, 'I don't know you, but I'd like to give you a hug!'  She turned around and embraced me as if I were family and said thank you!  I told her how impressed I was with her courage and positive attitude and that I would be praying for her as she continued to go through the grueling process of reconstruction.  Then her parting words really kicked things up a notch.  She said she's become a cancer survivor warrior and she's in the process of getting a t-shirt that says... Yes They're Fake... My Real Ones Tried to Kill Me!   We laughed hysterically! 

Human frailty has a funny way of stretching us beyond our limits and teaching us how to relate to others in the midst of crisis.  Hugs and laughter can go a long way in healing the mind, body and spirit.  Perhaps that was my needles and pins lesson.  Today, my Doctor called and said my tumors are benign.  I'm feeling pretty damn lucky too!


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Comment balloon 121 commentsMelinda (Mel) Peterson • March 26 2012 04:25PM


Great post. Lead in got my attention.

Posted by Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573, Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker (MOOERS REALTY) over 7 years ago

What a triumphant story!  Always get back up and carry on--and wear a smile or a t-shirt that makes others smile.  I'm suggesting this one!

Posted by Norma Toering Broker for Palos Verdes and Beach Cities, Palos Verdes Luxury Homes in L.A. (Charlemagne International Properties) over 7 years ago

This is a great story and I'm grateful for your good report! We will all be praying for your new friend.

Posted by David Burrows, No Pressure, Just Seriously Devoted to Real Estate (Classic Realty) over 7 years ago

Mel -

Blessings are yours and I'm sure you will never take anther day for granted.  Our family has been plagued with the cancer beast and hate what it brings.  I am thankful you're report was a positive you so make it a great rest of your life!

Posted by John McCormack, CRS, Honesty, Integrity, Results, Experienced. HIRE Me! (Albuquerque Homes Realty) over 7 years ago

Wonderful news personally for you Mel with the benign tumors. But I love the humor that lady had, and that is a great line. What are you going to do but find renewal and more energy somewhere? Humor does that. My best, for YOU doing better in the future....

Posted by Gary Woltal, Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth (Keller Williams Realty) over 7 years ago

Tomorrow a friend is undergoing a radical mastectomy and it's been a tough few weeks getting ready for the surgery and the months of recovery ahead.  A positive outlook goes a long way to dealing with what life throws at us.

Posted by Cindy Jones, Pentagon, Fort Belvoir & Quantico Real Estate News (Integrity Real Estate Group) over 7 years ago


That young lady has great spirit and we need that to get us through our life's challenges.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Posted by Lou Ludwig, Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC (Ludwig & Associates) over 7 years ago

Mel-I am VERY glad to hear about the benign tumors. I am glad you got to give that young gal a hug.  You both have the true spirit of a survivor and champion. You can't keep a good woman down.

Posted by Sharon Lee, Retired and loving life (Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance) over 7 years ago

Good on you Mel.  Women"s strength and self confident humor never ceases to amaze me.

Posted by Leslie G. Rojohn, GRI, ABR ~ MoonDancer Realty (MoonDancer Realty) over 7 years ago

Oh how I love this!  I am subscribing as I am a lung tumor survivor os one and a half years!  Rock on and keep that wonderful spirit alive!

Posted by Paula McDonald, Granbury, TX 936-203-0279 (Beam & Branch Realty) over 7 years ago

A very good friend of ours just went through this and she had to have surgery....she is the most upbeat person I have ever met and this didn't hardly slow her down. It takes real courage. I am happy for you that the tumors were benign .....humor has a funny way of healing.

Posted by Rich Ranft, CAI, GPPA, AARE (United Country - Beloit Auction & Realty Inc.) over 7 years ago

Mel, so happy to hear that the tumors are benign. Humor can go a long way when dealing with such things. That woman has the right attitude.

Posted by Tammie White, Broker, Franklin TN Homes for Sale (Franklin Homes Realty LLC) over 7 years ago


This T shirt adds a human dimension and breaks the ice. It's a difficult issue, but when it's a life and death issue, something has to go. And, if some humour stays, that's good!


Posted by Brian Madigan, LL.B., Broker (RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage (Toronto)) over 7 years ago

I'm glad the headline caught your attention Andrew!  It's a worthy topic!

Thanks for the suggest Norma!  The gal's spunky spirit made me smile ;)

I'm sure she'll feel the love David... a HUGE thanks!

Ditto Q-Man!  I'll never... ever... take anything for granted!

Thank you kindly Gary... you gotta laugh about this stuff... and yes, her line was totally hilarious!

Oh Cindy, my thoughts are with her... it's good she has you as a friend!

Spirit indeed Lou... it's what gives us the strength to tackle life's challenges!

Thank you for all your good thoughts and prayers Sharon... you're a warrior in my book!

I'm always amazed by super human strength... Leslie!

I've read your story Paula and I'm so amazed by your beauty and strength... you rock GF!

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

Hi Mel. The title and the tee shirt are terrific but the spirit and attitude here are really what make this post so very, very special.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) over 7 years ago

Melinda, the only thing that comes to mind is WOOOOOO  HOOOOOOOOOOO!   Brian


Posted by Brian L. Sirota, Esq., For Solutions: (714) 501-7660 (Bristar Realty (Realtor/Attorney)) over 7 years ago

Mel - I've been praying for you for the last week like you can't believe. Knowing what you were going through and not being able to do anything expect offer a few words of kindness broke my heart. I'm so happy to here this incredible news, but not surprised. God has so much more for you to do like touch the lives of all you meet the way you touched so many of us here in the Rain. I really hope we meet in person so I can see the person I've grown so fond of here at Active Rain- maybe at Gayle's Fishhawk Lake home?! I'm breathing a huge sigh of relief. Love ya GF!

Posted by Kristine Ginsberg, NJ Home Stager (Elite Staging and Redesign, LLC) over 7 years ago

Great news for you and great T-shirt idea your friend came up with. Praying for her right now.

Posted by Joni Bailey, Your Huntsville / Lake Livingston Area REALTOR® (101 Main St. Realty) over 7 years ago


Love it.  Way to find the positive and joy in life.  God Bless!

All the best, Michelle

Posted by Michelle Francis, Realtor, Buckhead Atlanta Homes for Sale & Lease (Tim Francis Realty LLC) over 7 years ago

Mel - Best wishes for a speedy recovery.  I wish you the best in your life after all this.  What a warrior you are!

Posted by Ron Marshall, Birdhouse Builder Extraordinaire (Marshall Enterprises) over 7 years ago

Mel, what a great story and a great shirt. I have a past client/friend who has had a double mastectomy and has new, fake ones.. I know she would love that shirt. I'll have to hunt one down for her.

Posted by Shannon Jones, Long Beach CA Real Estate (The Shannon Jones Team) over 7 years ago

Mel- I'm sorry I did not know of all that you were going through and for that I apologize.  And now... I am thrilled for you.  And God bless the young woman with such an upbeat attitude.  I love the t-shirt.  Keep that fighter/warrior attitude, Mel!

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) over 7 years ago

Courage and humor... two things I'd love to acquire more of... Rich!

Me too Tammie! And I loved this gal's sense of humor!

Human indeed Brian... and an ice breaker too boot!

Thank you Sheila... my experiences have led me down a very special path... I'm continually grateful!

Ha... thanks Brian!  Yippie, Skippy, Whoa, Awesome, Yowza, Radical and sooo Cool... come to mind too ;)

Oh Kris... Your last email made me cry... not sad tears... but tears of joy!  I'm pretty sappy these days, so it doesn't take much... but I wanted to tell you how much your email meant to me.  It came at a time when I was feeling so low... God knew I needed some encouragement... and there you were!  Thank you friend... you are one lovely lady!  Can't wait to meet in person someday... soon!

That's awfully sweet Joni... I know she will appreciate the prayers!

Thanks Michelle... it's the only way to live ;)))

Thank you so much Ron... I'd love to be a Warrior!

It's the first time I heard it... and I LOVE it!  I hope you find it online Shannon!

No worries sweetie (Kathy)!  I'm glad the worst is behind me... now I'm focused on feeling like 'me' again ;)))

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

Glad to hear your good news.  This is a wonderful story.. .and humor is the key to getting through difficult times.

Posted by Joan Whitebook, Consumer Focused Real Estate Services (BHG The Masiello Group) over 7 years ago

Mel, I'm really glad to hear your great report.  I know that pull of the human spirit when you're normally a really upbeat person.  It feels like a million pounds of weight pulling you down, and yet, there is something in us who are wired the opposite that wants to fight even when we're so tired that giving up would just be easier.  Here's to your continued good news and long healthy life!

Posted by Mike Cooper, GRI, Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro (Cornerstone Business Group Inc) over 7 years ago

powerful message. and I'm so happy you got good news  I've had those pins and needles moments in my world.  not fun.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 7 years ago

Mel~ What a great story.  Thanks for sharing.  What a great experience.  I love the tshirt!

Posted by Joy Daniels (Joy Daniels Real Estate Group, Ltd.) over 7 years ago

Mel, what an ordeal that must have been for you.  I'm so glad everything turned out well for  you. 

Posted by Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES, Florida Waterfront and Country Club Living (Tropic Shores Realty - Ich spreche Deutsch!) over 7 years ago

The sincerest of all congrats that those tumors are benign!  I can only imagine how stressful the wait was.  I also LOVE that idea for a T-Shirt lol :)!  A very good friend of mine is a breast cancer survivor and it is tough going for sure.  

Posted by Brenda Mullen, Your San Antonio TX Real Estate Agent!! (RE/MAX Access) over 7 years ago

Mel - I'm so happy for your results and what a relief.  Years ago I had 2 different scares where I thought I might have cancer and man oh man was I relieved.  The not knowing is stressful.  I'm so glad you hugged that woman and yes, laughter is the best medicine.

Posted by Debbie Gartner, The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers (The Flooring Girl) over 7 years ago
While dealing with cancer is a tragedy, I love that woman's attitude and am glad to hear that you are okay. By the way. I love your profile picture.
Posted by Melissa Zavala, Broker, Escondido Real Estate, San Diego County (Broadpoint Properties) over 7 years ago

Good for you, I bet you are really relived.  I had the same benign situation 8 years ago and feel very fortunate as well.  

Posted by Sidney Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula Kutchuk - Realty Works Temecula, Realty Works Temecula (Realty Works Temecula) over 7 years ago

Mel ~ your catchy title was more than worth the read.  My prayers go out to you and your tumors.  I love the t-shirt!

Posted by Dawn A Fabiszak, The Dawn of a New Real Estate Experience! (Private Label Realty ( Denver metro area, Colorado) over 7 years ago

Oh Mel, a big WHOOP WHOOP for that good news. I know that even though the doc had said my sons tumor was benign....we all still breathed a sigh of relief when the biopsy came back confirming this. I love to believe that as humans, we are very willing to rally around and support each other when it's truly needed. Your hug to that young woman is a perfect example. Is this T-shirt for sale? I have a couple of friends as well as family members that have had breast cancer and know they would love this.

Posted by Cindy Westfall, ABR,GRI Your Tualatin & Portland Metro Real Estate (Premiere Property Group,LLC Portland Metro & Suburbs Oregon) over 7 years ago

Mel you are amazing spirit-filled woman! I've had you on on my mind and in my thoughts and prayers. I am so happy to hear your news... your positive spirit prevailed. Humor does wonders to heal the heart and bring a light to difficult situations. I've had two close friends go through similar situations and they'e both living life to the max and so appreciative to be well and alive.  I hold this vision for you!   Enjoy your time back home!!  Much love to you:)

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten - Phoenix Homes Sales, 603-380-4886 (Phoenix Property Shoppe) over 7 years ago

Thank you Joan... there's humor in everything, we just have to find it!

Mike ~ You described it to a tee my friend!  Thank you for your encouraging words!

I'm so grateful Tammy... and also very much aware that so many of us have been touched by the 'C' word.  Thank you for your private email and words of encouragement... you're a sweetie!

Thank you Joy... I just love your name! 

Me too Richard... me too!  Thanks again for your funny video... I watch it every time I need a smile ;)

It was a bit of a roller coaster Silvia... but I'm glad that part is over!

And I sincerely appreciate that Brenda!  Buy your friend the t-shirt ;)))

Oh Debbie... I can relate... this wasn't my first scare... I'm glad you're okay ;)

I agree Melissa... she had the BEST attitude!  Thanks sweetie!

Wow Jane... I'm truly among friends here... glad you're okay too!

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

Mel, yes - we are lucky to be alive, count our blessing and have an attitude of gratitude. Who knows what coulp happen tomorrow?

Posted by Praful Thakkar, Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale (LAER Realty Partners) over 7 years ago


First you are a true warrior and an inspiration to all.  Second, your new friend has got to be one of the most special people in the world.

She epitamizes the statement: When life gives you lemon, you make lemonade.  To most people, they would have given up long before but her spirit as with yours is the true mark of Warriors.

It is an honor to know you and glad to hear your tests all came out benign.  As I have had an exwife and now a current love that both had this scare as well, I know this is probably the best feeling in the world for you right now.

May you keep your loving spirit and strength and continue to be the warrior you are.

God Bless You.


Posted by Florida Tolbert Team Keller Williams Advantage, Keller Williams Land Division Specialist (Keller Williams Advantage III Realty in Lake Nona) over 7 years ago

Fantastic Story!  My wife has a friend who has a history in the family and when they found a posible spot in December...boom  they were gone... she went back to work the next day... has had reconstructive surgery that was completed 2 weeks ago and 95% of the people who know her don;t even know about it...talk about one tough woman!!!

Posted by Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker, Farm Land For Sale 308-627-3700 or 800-241-3940 (Mike McCann - Broker, Mach1 Realty Farmland Broker-Auctioneer Serving Rural Nebraska) over 7 years ago

Tanacity filled and WINNER of Best Blog Post Title for March! :)

Please stop by for blog coffee and cake.


Love and light,


Posted by Laura Cerrano, Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher (Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island) over 7 years ago
Thank you for sharing! Attitude means a lot! Love the shirt too.
Posted by Christine Blaski, Frisco, Summit County CO Realtor (Cornerstone Real Estate) over 7 years ago

Mel ~ I loved reading your post, hearing of that optimistic young woman and of your own good news.  It's so true that we live each day one at a time.  About 20 years ago I had a cancer diagnosis, had a positive attitude, and have enjoyed life since then, one day at a time.  We love your spirit and look forward to more posts like this!

Posted by Maureen Bray Portland OR Home Stager ~ Room Solutions Staging, "Staging that Sells Portland Homes" (Room Solutions Staging, Portland OR) over 7 years ago

Thanks for your friendship and for your prayers Dawn!

I hear ya Cindy... I asked my Dr. to fax me the results... not that I didn't believe him, but I had to see it for myself!  Yes, I think you can order this t-shirt online... just Google it!

Such sweet words Anna... and truly music to my ears!  I soooo appreciate your kind thoughts and prayers... you've lifted my spirit today, and for that I thank you sweet lady!

I totally believe in having an attitude of gratitude Praful... and I'm prayerful too ;)))

Thank you Kevin!  I used to be a huge prayer Warrior, but I must admit, I've lost a bit of fervancy... perhaps I needed to go through this to strengthen my faith.  I so believe in helping others carry their burden when it's simply to much to bear.  

It's the silent warriors that often go unnoticed... Mike.  You and I were the lucky ones to be graced with their presence... even for a moment!

That made me laugh... Laura!  Love and light to you too sweetie!  

Christine ~ Attitude is everything!  P.S.  I love your neck of the woods... I spend time in Breckenridge as often as I can ;)

Thank you Maureen!  I'm surrounded by Warriors and I'm thrilled every time I hear a success story... like yours!

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

What is amazing to me, the older I get, is the relationships that we find in totally unexpected places.  In one unsuspecting encounter, you had a paradigm shift from the blessing of another brave soul who faced tragedy and survived.  I am so very thankful for the word 'benign' ~ although, truth be told, it is not a very attractive word.  But so much wrapped into it, and that is absolutely wonderful news, my friend.  And who would have ever thought (certainly not me) that when we joined AR we would have a whole new family, and a whole new support crew.  Much love and affection and congratulations.

Posted by Mimi Foster, Voted Colorado Springs Best Realtor (Falcon Property Solutions) over 7 years ago

That's great news, Mel.  What a relief.  And what a great attitude that woman has also.  It truly helps.

Posted by Jane Peters, Los Angeles real estate concierge services (Home Jane Realty) over 7 years ago


Wonderful news that your tumors are benign and your new found friend is getting better.  Very upbeat post.  Where can I get that Tshirt.  I know some friends who would love to have it.

Posted by Evelyn Kennedy, Alameda, Real Estate, Alameda, CA (Alain Pinel Realtors) over 7 years ago

Congratulations to the survivor! I think a positive attitude helps beat any issue. I have a couple of friends going thru it now. Pretty scary.

Posted by Bill Reddington, Destin Florida Real Estate (Re/max Southern Realty) over 7 years ago
So happy for you that your doctor had good news!! And what a great story ....and super great t shirt! I love how the warmth of your spirit enfolds a stranger ....and poof, no more strangers, just human connection.
Posted by Nancy Conner, Olympia/Thurston County WA over 7 years ago

Wow.. you are stronger and more amazing than we suspected... perhaps even more so that YOU expected.

I have been touched... nay, knocked down, through contact with this horrible disease... some are survivors, and some were not.  I'm glad to count you in the survivor category, and you have my prayers and thanks for sharing this important (and yes, cleverly titled) post.

Posted by Alan May, Helping you find your way home. (Jameson Sotheby's International Realty) over 7 years ago

Hi Mel,

What a wonderful post to share with us here on AR!  A BIG CHEERS to you, your healing and your great attitude!  Best of success to you this year!

Posted by Jordon Wheeler, J W Group Real Estate Sales and Service (The Jordon Wheeler Group) over 7 years ago

What a fabulous story - both the friendships found in the tough situation and that your outcome was benign.  Love the title and your new friend having put it on a tee-shirt.  The struggles we go through can make one stronger - I believe the this is the best attitude.  Everyone I know that has had cancer has said it has changed their life for the better..  Hugs across the miles.

Posted by Beth Paterson, CRMP, NMLS #342859 (Reverse Mortgages SIDAC, LLC, NMLS #1790592) over 7 years ago

Your story makes one laugh & cry.  I'm so happy for your good report!  God bless you!

Posted by Sara Homan, Realtor, Homes, Farms & 55+ (Coldwell Banker Ellison Realty 352-209-4044) over 7 years ago

So happy to hear the good news at the end of your post.  One of my dearest friends has been battling breast cancer for 5 years.  She's been brave, but it has taken a toll.  She is lucky to be alive, too.  Continued good health to you.

Posted by Christine Hooks, Celebrating 25 Years in Real Estate! (Pino Agency) over 7 years ago

I can totally relate to that Mimi... and I'm also amazed how easy it is to throw caution to the wind in the face of adversity.  It's important to seize every moment, as you never know when it might be your last!  I'm grateful for the friendships here in the Rain... they have enriched my life in recent days beyond measure.  Thank you for sharing in my joy!

I'm completely, totally and utterly R-E-L-I-E-V-E-D... Jane!

Thanks Evelyn!  Just Google the title of this post and I'm certain you will find some for sale online ;)

It is scary... Bill.  You wait on pins and needles until you get the call... then the news is either devastating or encouraging.  I happened to be the lucky one today!

Nancy ~ You made me smile with... 'poof, no more strangers, just human connection!'  Loved it!

Thanks for your lovely comments Alan.  I don't think there's a soul here that hasn't identified with the horrible effects of the 'C' word.  On a much lighter note... I thought of you last week when I chowed down two dark chocolate cupcakes from the Sprinkle Cupcake ATM in Beverly Hills... totally yumm!  I made a vid and will post it as soon as I think of another clever title ;)))

Thank you Jordan!  I'm hoping to get on with life ;)

Beth ~ Hugs across the miles are surely welcome and much appreciated!

I hear ya... Sara!  I've been blessed in so many ways and I'm truly thankful for the 'good' report!

The 'C' word can take it's toll on even the toughest of Warriors... give your friend warm hugs from all of us the next time you see her Chris!

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

Good story and a great t shirt. Great attitude goes a long way to overcoming adversity.

Posted by Jon Quist, Tucson's BUYERS ONLY Realtor since 1996 (REALTY EXECUTIVES TUCSON ELITE) over 7 years ago

Wonderful post, thank you for sharing such a personal story.  My prayers will be with you.

Posted by Ron Cooks, Texas Real Estate, Ft Hood/Killeen Homes for Sale (The Real Estate Marketplace) over 7 years ago

Mel, I'm so pleased to hear that the tumor was benign! It must have felt like passing from darkness into light. Benign doesn't seem like a big word but when you're waiting to hear one of two words that will change your life forever, benign is the word you want to hear. One of it's definitions is "showing or expressive of gentleness or kindness" that really says it all. May God continue to bless you with good health.

Posted by Nancy Laswick, Your REALTOR® For The Valley Of The Sun (United Real Estate) over 7 years ago

This outpouring of warmth and well wishes for our own Activerrain Cheerleader Captain just makes my day!!!

I'll take a half dozen t-shirts to go, please.  Put it on my tab! ;-)


Posted by Brian L. Sirota, Esq., For Solutions: (714) 501-7660 (Bristar Realty (Realtor/Attorney)) over 7 years ago

So glad you are okay. Life throws us such curveballs sometimes! Everyday is a gift.

Posted by Barbara Tattersall, GRI (Keller Williams Realty Metropolitan (Keene,NH)) over 7 years ago

Hi Mel: There is only thing which is certain in life. That is its uncertainties. Fake or real? It does not matter. We can still breathe the cold and warm air. I am glad it is benign. Your title caught my attention:)

Posted by Maria Gilda Racelis, Home Ownership is w/in Reach. We Make it Happen! (Home Buyers Realty, LLC-Manchester, Bolton. Vernon,Ellington) over 7 years ago

Hi There Mel-I'd give you a big hug if I was closer-good luck-touching story and great T-shirt!

Posted by Marco Giancola, Realtor (305)608-1922, Miami Beach Florida (Beachfront Realty) over 7 years ago

Laughter is one of the best medicines we have and one unfortunately, under utilized.  Best wishes.

Posted by Faith LaRosse, Serving Berks, Chester & Montgomery Counties (Springer Realty Group) over 7 years ago

Thanks for sharing this great story Mel.  Hope all stays good for you.

Posted by Gabe Sanders, Stuart Florida Real Estate (Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales) over 7 years ago

A truly great inspiration! Thanks for sharing!

Posted by Donna Derrick Ponte Vedra Beach, Jax Beach FL (Davidson Realty Inc) over 7 years ago

MORNING MEL!  I am so thrilled for you - and that you met such a good spirited individual dealing with this - the laughter and attitude will make everything better!  My friend is in stage IV of this and throughout it all - she laughs and smiles bigger and louder than anyone I know!

Posted by Gabrielle Kamahele Rhind, Broker/Owner (KGC Properties LLC, Tucson Property Management & Real Estate) over 7 years ago

Mel you are a very fortunate woman to have gotten that diagnosis and to have the support system in place to help you as well. My bride can wear that shirt as well, and everyday is a bonus, almost 19 years later

Posted by Ed Silva, Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally (RE/MAX Professionals, CT 203-206-0754 ) over 7 years ago

on may 27th i will celebrate my 5 year anniversary...that being of the day i didn't die. 2 procedures and 3 stents later i'm happy to be here able to treasure evry single day.

todays it's off to jetblue park to see josh beckett and the red sox take on the rays...sunny with a high of 86 is the forecast.

keep fightin the good fight; it's worth it

Posted by Jay Beckingham, Seniors ROCK! ( Bank of England Mortgage) over 7 years ago

Gina (my spouse, best friend, and business partner) survived stage 3 breast cancer. Yesterday we got some great news. It's been 5 years and she's done taking medications! 

Keep a great attitude and surround yourself with people who love, care, and support you. You too can beat it!


Posted by Tom Branch, Broker, CDPE, SFR, ACRE, Plano TX Ambassador (RE/MAX Dallas Suburbs) over 7 years ago

What a great story... and an eye catching title!  Looks like you have gotten a ton of comments so far too! 

Posted by Jessica Holtzman, Real Estate Agent in Southern New Jersey, CDPE (Keller Williams Realty, Inc.) over 7 years ago

Mel, It always helps to know we aren't alone. I pray for you to receive continued happy medical news. What a great comment. Bless you for sharing!

14 year cancer survivor giving you hugs

Posted by Leslie Godbold, Motivation Speaker, Radio host "Positively Living" (WZGM AM1350 Independent Asheville Radio) over 7 years ago
Love this it brings a new prospective to life and like the shirt, I need a hat that says that
Posted by Nathan Rufty - 623-850-1210, Mortgage Loan Originator at 623-850-1210 (Canopy Mortgage, LLC) over 7 years ago

Thanks for sharing the story. I am glad you are doing well. Good luck.

Posted by Gita Bantwal, REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel (RE/MAX Centre Realtors) over 7 years ago

That is an inspriing story!  Each of us face hardships daily and God gives us the strength th become warriors.  My hats off to everyone fighting this disease.  And I love the TShirt !

Posted by Debi McKamie, Realtor®/Property Manager (Amazing Realty) over 7 years ago

Inspiring! It's always nice to start the week with such a human story.

Posted by Vanessa Saunders, From Manhattan to the Catskills of New York (Global Property Systems Real Estate) over 7 years ago

The resolve of the human spirit, is capable of so much.

Good post, thanks for sharing it.

Posted by Anthony Daniels, SF Bay Area REO Specialist (Coldwell Banker) over 7 years ago

We should all count our prayers for every healthy day we are blessed to enjoy.

Posted by Ron Barnes, "Most agents claim they're #1 - I THINK YOU'RE #1! (Associate Broker at Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Georgia Properties) over 7 years ago

Mel, I beat it almost 15 years ago and my Wife is going to beat it this Friday when she has her surgery. A positive attitude goes a long way when dealing with this dreadful disease. Glad to hear your results were benign and you are doing well.

Posted by Michael Setunsky, Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA over 7 years ago

It's amazing no matter what life throws our way most of the time we make it through. I truly believe having a positive attitude is a MUST in order to live a fufilling life.  We HAVE to keep going no matter what.  I say CHEERS to you and may you have a life filled with all the joy and happiness there is!

Posted by Cheryl Thomson REALTOR Army Ret, Associate Broker in Northern Virginia ( United Real Estate (703.216.5635) cheryltee47@gmail.com) over 7 years ago

I'm very happy for you. .a good reminder how fragile our life and happiness are at any given moment. 

Posted by Fernando Herboso - Broker for Maxus Realty Group, 301-246-0001 Serving Maryland, DC and Northern VA (Maxus Realty Group - Broker 301-246-0001) over 7 years ago

Great story, since we all know of too many loved ones gone that never get to wear a shirt like that again. 

Posted by Scott Seaton Jr. Bourbonnais Kankakee IL Home Inspector, The Home Inspector With a Heart! (SLS Home Inspections-Bradley Bourbonnais Kankakee Manteno) over 7 years ago

HOOOOORAY, Mel!!!! That is fantastic news! Grinning from ear to ear :) and also impressed by your ability to reach out to others even in your time of stress and uncertainty. You're one of the good 'uns, my dear.

Posted by Mary Elizabeth Allen over 7 years ago

That is a great story! Thanks for sharing it with us here in The Rain!!!

Posted by Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi, MA, PSA, TRC - Greater Clearwater Florida Residential Real Estate Professional, Palm Harbor, Dunedin, Clearwater, Safety Harbor (Charles Rutenberg Realty) over 7 years ago

This made me smile! It's all about perspective, isn't it? Best of luck to you!!

Posted by Ron & Carol Young (The Ron Young Team - Keller Williams Real Estate) over 7 years ago

Mel, First I'm delighted for you that your biopsy came back negative. What a lovely story about this woman. I have a friend with a similar story. She is also so inspiring!

Posted by Connie Harvey, Realtor - Nashville TN Real Estate (Pilkerton Realtors) over 7 years ago

What a great story.  Thanks so much for sharing such a perosnal part of your life and I am so glad it has turned out positive.  God Bless.

Posted by Larry Gatti (The Gatti Group at Keller Williams Realty) over 7 years ago

Mel - My husband's pancreatic cancer has changed our perspective on life.  Relationships with others come to the fore and everything .else rescedes to the background.  You've been blessed with a scare, but not the illness.  This is an opportunity to change your life dramatically without the actual pain and suffering of the illness itself.  The universe hands us these lessons, but it's up to us to decide whether to take them to heart.  I love the encounter in the shop with friends and a stranger.  It was filled with love and in the end, that's all there really is, the rest is unimportant.

Posted by Gail Robinson, CRS, GRI, e-PRO Fairfield County, CT (William Raveis Real Estate) over 7 years ago

Mel, what a great story, thanks for sharing it and yes everyday is a blessing as you well know! Best.

Posted by Adrian Willanger, Profit from my two decades of experience (206 909-7536 AdrianWillanger-broker.com) over 7 years ago

Yes indeed you have passed through an important step. It also took a lot courage and determination that you shared this with us, for you and your friend. Embrace the new enlightenment it has given you, because that's also a gift. We shall never take anything for granted, but rather grateful everyday for our blessings.

Posted by Richard Bazinet /MBA, CRS, ABR, Phoenix Scottsdale. Sellers, Buyers & Relocations (West USA Realty) over 7 years ago

How our worlds can change in a heart beat. A close client of mine young husband recently found out that he has kidney cancer, and unfortunately there is nothing that can be done--- due to the advance stage. The doctors say that he has two months to six months left, but he gets up everyday tries his best to groom himself, and be positive, I do not think anyone of us knows until we walk in the other person shoes what it is like for life  to present such challenges.



Posted by Lorraine or Loretta Kratz, Certified Negotiation Consultants (Crescent Moon Realty, Inc. & Land N Sea Auctions.) over 7 years ago

I look forward to that video.  :-)

Posted by Alan May, Helping you find your way home. (Jameson Sotheby's International Realty) over 7 years ago

Great Post - Love a sprit that will not quit. BTW where can I get that shirt?  I know my mother a survivor would love one! 

Posted by Virginia (Ginger) Schott, Assoc. Broker, CBR, CHMS (Cabins & Canoes) over 7 years ago

You have to love the happy ending... I am glad to hear you got good news!

Posted by Robert Rauf (HomeBridge Financial Services (NJ)) over 7 years ago

This is great news and a wonderful story. That you hugged this perfect stranger speaks volumes of you! Well done!

Posted by Sandy Acevedo, RE/MAX Masters, Inland Empire Homes for Sale (951-290-8588) over 7 years ago

Mel what a blessing you have received.  I understand the feeling of being told it is benign and I could not be happier for you and yours.  You were also a blessing for the girl you encountered and I do love the tee shirt.  Perfect.  It seems cancer of any kind is becoming a little more rampart lately, it is all a mystery.

Posted by Mary Stewart, Wilsonville and Surrounding Portland Metro Areas (HomeTrust Real Estate, LLC, Homes for Everyone) over 7 years ago

Wow! Great story, very inspirign.  I love the tshirt! Wear it proudly!

Posted by Kristin Moran, San Antonio,TX - Real Estate - 210-313-7397 (Owner - RE/MAX Access - KristinMoran@Remax.net) over 7 years ago

I couldn't agree more Jon!

My pleasure Ron... and thanks a bunch!

I surely like your definition of benign Shirley... 'showing or expressive of gentleness or kindness.'

Brian ~ Having you visit my blog 2 times in less than 24 hours is like having a double shot of espresso!

Barbara ~ Life is truly a gift... to be treasured!

So true Maria.... and uncertainty is for real!

Ahhh... thanks Marco!

I laugh every day... Faith!  It's food for the soul.

I hope so too Gabe... thanks for stopping by!

Donna ~ I'm so glad you think so... I was truly inspired!

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

Gabrielle ~ I'm so thrilled too!  And it's seems to be so true... those who encounter such challenges end up being the ones who smile and laugh the most about it.

Bless your bride... Ed!  Give her hugs today and let her know how much you love her!

Wow... Jay... that's amazing!  God bless every lovin' stint you have... and keep up the good fight!

Oh Tom.... that is such fantastic news!  Give your spouse, best friend, and business partner lots of hugs!

Thanks Jessica!  This topic has touched just about everyone at some time or another.

Hugs back atcha Leslie... congrats on 14 years of being cancer free!

Perspective is the view we need to see the world through another's lense... thanks Nathan!

Thank you Gita!

Hardships are certainly a fact of life... how we deal with them is up to us.  I choose smiles... thanks Debi.

I love human stories too Vanessa!  Have a great week!

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago


What a great story, and I love the positiveness of it and your sense of humor.  We wish you all the best, and I am at a loss for original words since so many have expressed themselves here in the way I would have...A

Posted by Ron and Alexandra Seigel, Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy (Napa Consultants) over 7 years ago

Hi Mel,  Catchy title brought me in.  Thanks for a courages post.  All good things to you !

Posted by Bill Gillhespy, Fort Myers Beach Realtor, Fort Myers Beach Agent - Homes & Condos (16 Sunview Blvd) over 7 years ago

I so agree Anthony... 'The resolve of the human spirit, is capable of so much.'

I count them every day... Ron!

Oh Michael... I rejoice with you for being a Warrior for 15 years!  May God be with you both this Friday!

Cheryl ~ 'A life filled with all the joy and happiness there is.' 

Thank you Fernando!  Life is fragile indeed!

I've lost some very dear friends to the 'C' word Scott... which is why this topic is so important to me.

Miss Mary Elizabeth... your bright and cheery comment warmed my heart and brought a grin to my face... from ear to ear!

Thanks for reading it Barbara-Jo!

I'm glad... Ron & Carol... smiles are a big part of my world.

I'm truly inspired by people who shine in the face of adversity... thanks Connie!

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

If this post inspires even one person... mission accomplished... Larry!

Oh Gail... my heart is heavy for you and your hubby. Pancreatic cancer is one of the worst to fight... I know, my assistant's husband is battling the same disease and is in ICU even as I write this. Words are simply not enough to comfort those dealing with such grief and pain. Bless you for being there for your husband. And you're absolutely right... there's nothing more precious than the love we have for one another... nothing else matters!

A blessing indeed... Adrian!

Your words speak volumes... Richard.  Our God is a God of second chances... (third, fourth, fifth... you get the picture).  Everyone of us has an opportunity to fully embrace challenges and seek to understand the lesson that is meant for us in each situation.  I've had soooo many lessons along the way and I'm incredibly grateful to still be here to share them with loved ones and friends.  Thank you for stopping by today!

Lorraine & Lorreta ~ Some of us may never fully know what it is like to walk in another's shoes... but we can certainly love them with all of our heart and show them that we care.  Thank you for sharing your friend's story!

It's not great... Alan, but it was certainly fun!  And today, my family surprised me with a special delivery... all the way from Beverly Hills... more yumm!

Virginia ~ Google the title of this post and you will find several online vendors who sell the shirt!

I'm a huge sucker for Happy Endings... Robert!

Sandy ~ It was the least I could do... hugs are totally free!

Sounds like you've been there... Mary!  The 'B' word stands for Blessing!

Thanks Kristin... this girl could have moved mountains with her faith!

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

Mel, all the best, great line, I hope I don't see too many shirts like that! Cancer is a curse! I know so many people fighting it none more so than my Mom, her third battle with it.

Posted by David O'Doherty, Clayton NC Homes, Raleigh, NC (Raleigh Realty Inc) over 7 years ago

I'm very glad the prognosis is benign and that you don't have to go the difficult route of mastectomy.  I think your attitude is incredibly positive and you're an inspiration for any woman dealing with the issue.  Stay strong!

Posted by Bryan Robertson over 7 years ago

~I lost dear friends and family to cancer, it affects all....Remember one foot after the other is the only way to walk..

I would just add, focus on the positive stuff, if you look hard enough positive is right around the corner!


@ don't forget you're great!

Posted by Jon Kolsky, Licensed California Real Estate Broker (Kolsky Realty & Management) over 7 years ago


I saw on your blog that the tumors are benign! Awesome and thank God! I just love your spirit through all of this .....you are seriously one kick ass kind of woman.

All the best and look forward to seeing you soon


Posted by Debbie Nachman over 7 years ago

Hey sweetie, I am so relieved to hear the news. You KNOW you have been in my thoughts and prayers. Hurray.

Isn't the human spirt awesome - I love that woman's attitude - and her t-shirt.

We just had a scare with my daughter - emergency surgery for an ovarian cyst - non cancerous. And most recently, she was back the ER with a complication.  Yikes, all is fine now.

It makes me so grateful when everyone I love is happy and healthy. ( And that goes for you too!)

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) over 7 years ago

Thanks Alexandra!  I'm almost at a loss for words too for all of the kind and tender thoughts expressed here.

Those catchy titles have a way of reeling ya in... Bill ;)

I hear ya Dave... the 'C' word should be registered as a naughty word!

Too cute Bryan... I don't expect to acquire anything fake in the near future ;)

I don't have to look to far Jon... there's beauty all around me... and sometimes I forget!  ;)))

Hey my cool chicky friend (Debbie)... I'm so glad you're watching over me!  Thanks for the kick ass kudos... you know I luv ya!

Hey Deb ~ I'm so glad you got to visit Alaska... looked absolutely beautiful!  Things are good on the home-front and I'm on the mend.  Wow... about your daughter.  I hope she's okay!  Thanks for your thoughts and prayers... can't wait to see you girls. 

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago


Just checking in to see how you are doing and something to help cheer you up, cvc

from Steve Peters in an earlier AR post

The Husband Store
A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City , where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:

You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs. She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids. 'That's nice,' she thinks, 'but I want more.' So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking. 'Wow,' she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework. 'Oh, mercy me!' she ex claims, 'I can hardly stand it!' Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak. She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

PLEASE NOTE: To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across the street.

The first floor has wives that love sex.

The second floor has wives that love sex, have money and like beer.

The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.


Posted by Curtis Van Carter, Your Napa Valley Broker Extraordinaire (Better Homes & Gardens Wine Country Group) over 7 years ago

OMG... Curtis... that was hilarious and made laugh out loud!  Thanks for stopping by to check in on me... I'm feeling better ;)))

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

Mel, I'm happy that you're diagnosis came back the way it did. I'm also really happy that you "get it." People are strange beings and you're one of the special ones!

Posted by Eric Michael, Metro Detroit Real Estate Professional 734.564.1519 (Remerica Integrity, Realtors®, Northville, MI) over 7 years ago

Oh my Gawd, Mel,I just got goosebumps!!  What FABULOUS NEWS!!  I'm so glad you got featured (and not just for your boobs!)

Ha! Love ya, missy--okay we HAVE to dish on the phone, SOOOOOOONNNNN, (put down those celebratory cupcakes).


Posted by Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate, "Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905 (John L Scott Market Center) over 7 years ago

Great story Mel.  My mom survived breast cancer and colon cancer twice over a period of 12 years. What killed her was the liver cancer because she couldn't adjust to being a survivor rather than a victim.  She drank to numb the fear rather than facing it.  Your survivor story exemplifies how we should feel when we overcome adversity, but it also shows that we are human and we can control how we feel about what life shares with us.  Thank you for your stories Mel.

Posted by Larry Lawfer, "I listen for a living." It's all about you. (YourStories Realty Group powered by Castles Unlimited®) over 7 years ago


That's great news, here is another wish, cheers cvc

Posted by Curtis Van Carter, Your Napa Valley Broker Extraordinaire (Better Homes & Gardens Wine Country Group) over 7 years ago

Thanks Eric!  I do 'get' it... regarding your post... I've learned not to expend too much energy on people who piss in your cheerios... it's just not worth it.  I enjoyed your post and hope you're having a better week!

My cupcake days are over for now Gayle... I'm doing a macrobiotic diet and no sugar for awhile.  We'll see how long I can resist chocolate ;)  Let's chat soon!

Oh Larry, that is a heart-breaking story about your Mom.  My mother suffered from MS for most of my life and she died too young (55), but she provided me with the best lessons in being a 'survivor' and I cherish them everyday!  I wish I could tell her how much I learned from her... maybe one day ;)))

Ahhh, thanks Curtis.  It's sunshine and rainbows from here on out ;)

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

Mel ~~~

I spurted quickly to my German - English dictionary to check 100 % on the world benign...such heart touching news, happy ending, the world and beyond  is yours! You crossed the Rubicon!!! Be well.

Posted by Peter Michelbach, i Sell Real Estate over 7 years ago

Peter ~ Benign... also means Blessing... in the Mel Peterson dictionary ;)

Thanks for stopping by John... I'm glad you enjoyed the story ;)

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) over 7 years ago

The power of the human spirit never ceases to amaze me. Strength can come from the most unexpected places. This was a great story and I would have never guessed the true story behind the title.  Uplifting to say the least.

Posted by John Fauth, Turning your dreams into an address! (Coldwell Banker King Thompson) over 7 years ago

My friend is fixing to have a double mastectomy and she has found inspriration in the shirt "You're damn right their fake......The real ones tried to kill me" I must get her one. Please tell me how.

Thank You,

Jennifer Burgett

Posted by Jennifer Burgett almost 7 years ago

We had an agent in our office with breast cancer and I have a dear friend that just suffered a double mastectomy.  This was a great post

Posted by Joy Daniels (Joy Daniels Real Estate Group, Ltd.) over 5 years ago

Mel ~ I have seen these t-shirts and read a story similar to this one.  True grit!

Posted by Dawn A Fabiszak, The Dawn of a New Real Estate Experience! (Private Label Realty ( Denver metro area, Colorado) over 5 years ago

How are you doing Mel these days?

I hope, you are well after all you went through.

Posted by Inna Ivchenko, Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA (Barcode Properties) over 4 years ago