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It's Okay If You Don't Feature Me

It's Okay If You Don't Feature Me.  A few weeks ago, I wrote a very personal post about a childhood friend who is dying from an incurable disease.  In an effort to help the family, and bring as much exposure to the story as I could, I reached out to the Active Rain Gods (privately) and asked for something I would never think of asking for myself... a Feature. 

I care little about the Gold Star and what it represents to this community.  I've never placed any importance on earning points in a system that mimics make believe (although, I admire those who have been blogging since dinosaurs became extinct ;).  What I care about most is people, and how I can personally make a difference in the lives of others.  That has always been the benchmark for everything that I do.

I've never been one to ask for help.  Perhaps it's a bit of pride left over from my impecunious childhood, but I'd rather dumpster dive for aluminum cans than beg for assistance.  I've worked hard my entire life and I've given back tenfold.  When it comes to sharing the needs of others, I don't mind shouting it from the mountain top so the whole world can hear. 

When Active Rain said they couldn't Feature my post because of a policy (it wouldn't be fair to all), I didn't take it personal.  What I did instead was something far more productive.  I created a website at www.GoFundMe.com/LarsonFamily to gather donations for my friends.  We went live with the site today and we've already collected over a thousand dollars!

It's okay if you don't feature me... but will you please consider joining me in making a financial donation to help a family in dire need?  The website  accepts donations as low as $5.00.  Just think... if 20K ActiveRainers donated $5.00 each, we would easily reach our goal of raising $100,000., making a significant difference in the lives of this family.  Call me a dreamer, but I believe anything is possible! 

Click on the Larson Family Fund and donate today!  Your love, prayers and support are much appreciated! 

Update as of 11/15/13... We've raised over $30K in donations for the Larson Family!  Thanks to many of you who have helped, and continue to donate to this cause!  It makes my heart happy!


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Comment balloon 52 commentsMelinda (Mel) Peterson • September 18 2013 10:50AM


Mel- I do remember that post and I know you.  Features mean nothing to you other than that it opens up an avenue for your message.   You are the friend that everyone needs. 

Featured in Bananatude

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) about 6 years ago

I understand their policy and what you did Mel was much more powerful.

Posted by Gary Woltal, Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth (Keller Williams Realty) about 6 years ago

Mel,  I cannot wait to meet you at the NAR Habitat build in San Francisco in November. I know your heart is in the right place.  Features mean nothing ... its the message and helping others. 

Posted by Kathleen Daniels, San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist (KD Realty - 408.972.1822) about 6 years ago

A good way to help out a friend. Whether you raise $5.00 or the full $100,000 they now you care.

Posted by Than Maynard, Broker - Licensed to List & Sell - 405-990-8862 (Coldwell Banker Heart of Oklahoma) about 6 years ago

Thank you so much for featuring this post in BananaTudes... Kathy!  You are a precious soul!  Someday I hope we can meet in 'real' life ;-)))

I appreciate that very much... Gary!  You can't keep a determined woman down ;-)

Ditto, Ditto, Ditto... Kathleen!  I am soooo excited that you'll be doing Habitat for Humanity in San Francisco with me!!!  If I had a hammer... okay, I'll spare you my sic humor of wanting to break into song ;-)  See ya soon Kiddo!

This is such an awesome site... Than!  What's more exciting is... Social Media is spreading the word faster than we ever could!

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) about 6 years ago

Mel, You ARE a gold star!  What a wonderful way in which you show that you care.

Posted by Marnie Matarese, Showing you the best of Sarasota! (DWELL REAL ESTATE) about 6 years ago

And donated...this is a great way to get the word out Mel.  Such a wonderful tribute to your friends...I hope a lot donate :)!

Oh and this is suggested lol...maybe they will feature this one :)!

Posted by Brenda Mullen, Your San Antonio TX Real Estate Agent!! (RE/MAX Access) about 6 years ago

Mel, I am suggesting, donating and re-blogging. Something I rarely do.

Posted by Tammie White, Broker, Franklin TN Homes for Sale (Franklin Homes Realty LLC) about 6 years ago

That is so sweet... Marnie!  I'm only doing what any decent human being would do for a loved one or friend.  Thank-you kindly!

Brenda ~ I can't even begin to tell you how touched I was by your generous donation, comment, and the re-blog!  It warms my heart to know there are special souls out there who truly care for humanity and will donate to a complete stranger!  Thank-you from the bottom of my heart sweet lady!

Tammie ~ You are such a sweetie!!!  I soooo appreciate the suggest, your loving donation (wow!) and of course the re-blog!  With special friends like you, we can accomplish anything we set our minds to!  Thank-you sweet Sista... I feel the love all the way from Tennessee!

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) about 6 years ago

Mel~ I missed your first post, so I'll need to go back and read that one. I hit the suggest button on this one and plan to reblog too! Oh, and I'll visit the website and make a donation also!

Posted by Donna Foerster, Metro Denver Real Estate Assistant (HomeSmart Realty Group) about 6 years ago

Mel, The exposure alone on this site and the re-blogs will surely help your friends get to their goal. Features are a bonus here in the Rain but the people are what really matter! Your friends are lucky to have you rooting for them!

Posted by Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!, So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR (Prado Real Estate South) about 6 years ago

Very decent human being you are.  Causes like yours become more aware organically.

Posted by Jay & Michelle Lieberman, Creating Calm in the Buying and Selling Chaos (Keller Williams World Class) about 6 years ago

Thank for the suggest... Donna!  Apparently it worked ;-)  I appreciate everyone who's willing to take the lead and spread the word across this network of fine colleagues and friends.  Thank you for that!

I totally agree... Wanda!  The 'Feature' certainly helps to spread the word and potentially have the ability to change this family's life. 

Thank you kindly Jay & Michelle!  We have so many friends, family and colleagues pulling for this family.  We've received just about $3K in less than 24 hours... an 'organic' miracle if you ask me ;)

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) about 6 years ago

This got the feature because you are a gold star human being. Great effort brings great rewards.

Posted by Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty, Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County (Bucci Realty, Inc.) about 6 years ago

Mel, So glad to see this was featured.  I've made a donation, tweeted, shared on FB, Google+ and everything else I could do to help spread the word.  You are such an inspiration. Thank you for helping us all be better people. 

Posted by Kathleen Daniels, San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist (KD Realty - 408.972.1822) about 6 years ago

Mel, You are a true friend. Hope you get a lot of donations for your friends. I am in!

Posted by Helen and Larry Prier- Re-Max Gateway - Residential Real Estate, Anacortes & surrounding Skagit & Island Counties (RE-MAX Gateway- Residential Real Estate Sales) about 6 years ago

Hi Mel, I agree with so many other members that I am glad that you got featured and I will share your link everywhere possible to help.  Thanks for sharing!

Posted by Karen Johnson, Realtor, ABR, "Bucks County PA Homes" (Addison Wolfe Real Estate ) about 6 years ago

Mel-You are such a special lady with a huge heart. Hope this works to get this family help

Posted by Sharon Lee, Retired and loving life (Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance) about 6 years ago

Hi Melinda. I am glad your follow up post was featured. This is a good deed for the year :) It looks like you're at $3,000 now. Rooting for you and for them.

Posted by Lana Robbins Realtor ® Licensed Real Estate Broker, Florida and Washington Real Estate (Aloha Kai Real Estate) about 6 years ago
You found a much better way to help the family that you arecseekingbto help.
Posted by 1~Judi Barrett, BS Ed, Integrity Real Estate Services -IDABEL OK (Integrity Real Estate Services 118 SE AVE N, Idabel, OK 74745) about 6 years ago

Hi Mel,

You are one special lady..you don't give up and you made your message heard and it's working!! Look at what you are raising!!! You are indeed incredible!!

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899) about 6 years ago

Mel, I was going to say you are golden through and through.  But you are not.  Your incredible heart and sense of reasoning is way beyond gold.  You my friend are a red diamond.  A quality of person so rare that only a handful exist in the world.  A gold star really doesn't matter.  It is the friendship that you have that matters.  The love that you give that matters.  The going the extra mile that matters. 

Posted by Laura S. Baker, Realtor (920) 728-4118, First Weber Inc (First Weber Inc) about 6 years ago
Melinda, kudos for being there for your friend. As always ActiveRain is there to rally around our friends.
Posted by Mary Yonkers, Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor (Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate) about 6 years ago

Yeah, I had the same thing happen to me when I was trying to help a veteran raise money for purple heart veterans.  Policy.  And I get it.  If they do it for one of us, they would have to do it for all of us and the feature board would turn into a fundraiser.

I love your "marching onward" spirit though.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) about 6 years ago

Well I gave this a click of the "Suggest" button to see if that will make any difference.  Anything we can do to help!

Posted by Bryan Robertson about 6 years ago

I have to smile while reading this blog.  Your thoughts on points mirrors my own a little.  It's not that I don't like points, because I do!  But, they shouldn't be the primary prize when setting up personal goals.  I have my own list of things I hope to achieve.  Points are right there next to winning at "Angry Birds."  Worthy goals are what it's all about!

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) about 6 years ago

Great post! I will be going to that site and making my donation to this cause. I hope you are closer to the goal than you were when you wrote that post.

Posted by Sussie Sutton, UTR TEXAS Realtors - Rep for buyers and sellers. (UTR Texas Realtors) about 6 years ago

Mel~ you're doing everything and then some.....I know that's no consolation, but all we can do is love life as best we can!...."Thanks for making it easy to donate to the purpose...

Posted by Jon Kolsky, Licensed California Real Estate Broker (Kolsky Realty & Management) about 6 years ago


This time you got your gold star.  It appears the squeaky wheel gets the grease around here.  I saw Kerrie yesterday and she was helping me fix something and she said you only have 3 features out of nearly 1400 posts? 

I said yeah and she said nothing, but you could tell she was wonderign why.

I mean I may not be Mark Twain, but I think if nearly 2000 of you sometimes read my stuff, some of it must be interesting. 

Posted by Florida Tolbert Team Keller Williams Advantage, Keller Williams Land Division Specialist (Keller Williams Advantage III Realty in Lake Nona) about 6 years ago

Congratulations not only on the feature and gold star, but most importantly, raising the awareness to help this family dear to you.

Posted by Michelle Carr Crowe,Altas Just Call...408-252-8900!, Family Helping Families Buy & Sell Homes 40+ Years (Get Results Team...Just Call (408) 252-8900! . DRE #00901962 . Licensed to Sell since 1985 . Altas Realty) about 6 years ago

Mel, this is a great thing you're doing for this family. The story on the website is compelling. Good job! (and I don't mean the points or the feature)

Posted by Maria Morton, Kansas City Real Estate 816-560-3758 (Chartwell Kansas City Realty) about 6 years ago

Mel, I'm so happy that so much money has been raised so quickly! It's amazing what happens when someone with a good heart reaches out for help - even if it's not for her, people respond. You are a blessing in their lives!

Posted by Mary Elizabeth Allen about 6 years ago

This is a wonderful thing to do for your friends; you're up to $4250, so well on your way.  Best wishes to the Larsons.

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (406-270-3667 (MT), 914-419-0270 (NY), Broker in NY with Grand Lux Realty and in MT with (coming soon!)) about 6 years ago

Yes to this post, effort, woman of depth and cause...The word "help" is not entertainment but calls for a certain action

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) about 6 years ago

What a great gesture to help this family, I admire your persistence and passion.

Posted by Donny Carter, Mountain Maryland Real Estate Expert (Carter & Roque Real Estate) about 6 years ago

Mel~ You are a gift to all of us and a special gift to those in need. Thank you for sharing your story; YOU are a Gold Star! Spreading the word ...... Thank you, and bless your friends!

Posted by Christi Farrington, ~ Your representative in Fairfield County, CT (Dagny's Real Estate) about 6 years ago

to Kevin's comment (#29).... Mel has 44 features (including this one) out of 703 posts.  That represents over 6% of her posts have earned the gold start... not a bad percentage!

Not sure where Kerrie (or Kevin) got their information.

Posted by Alan May, Helping you find your way home. (Jameson Sotheby's International Realty) about 6 years ago

Great cause, Melinda!

Posted by Rich Gaasenbeek, Real Estate CRM & Marketing Made Easy! (IXACT Contact Real Estate CRM) about 6 years ago

Great post. We have a family member that was born with spinal muscular atrophy.  So we know firsthand what this type of disease can do to the person and the family.  God bless you!

Posted by Jeanne Gregory, The most important home I sell is YOURS! (RE/MAX Southwest) about 6 years ago

Hello Friends!  First, I just want to say that I'm overwhelmed with joy from the outpouring of love and generosity from many of you who have shared here, as well as donated to the Larson Family.  We've already collected $5K in less than 24 hours of the site being live.  Once we reach $10K, we should be able to secure housing for the family in the Conejo Valley. 

Your kind thoughts, reblogs and very sweet comments have touched my heart.  Thank you!!!  I plan on coming back and responding to each one of you... but for now, I'm running out the door to show property all day to some fabulous clients referred to me by Elizabeth Weintraub (thanks Elizabeth!).

Blessings ~ Mel

Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) about 6 years ago

On it friend. Hope to talk soon, you sound very, very busy.

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) about 6 years ago

Good evening Melinda.  It is a wonderful thing you are doing for your friend.  

Posted by Kathy Sheehan, Senior Loan Officer (Bay Equity, LLC 770-634-4021) about 6 years ago

Melinda, the gift you gave (and are giving) to your friends and family as well as the ActiveRain community is what really matters and I hope they get to see the responses to your blog for and about them to help show all the support coming in from around the globe.

Posted by Kelly Young, Colorado Springs Real Estate ~ 719-226-0126 (The Platinum Group Realtors) about 6 years ago

I see you got a gold star:) and I think it is absolutely .

Your story comes from the heart and I'd click 'suggest' any day on such.

Hope, re-bogs and sharing will help you to reach the goal to help the family. Thanks for doing it!

Posted by Inna Ivchenko, Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA (Barcode Properties) about 6 years ago

Mel  You are truly a person that can make my eyes tear with your kindness.  Great to see what AR can do...on many levels.

Posted by John G. Johnston, An Exclusive Buyer's Agent ~ Westcliffe, CO (John G. Johnston & Associates, LLC) about 6 years ago

I see on Facebook that you are continuing to raise money for the Larson family. They are sure lucky you have you in their corner. A true angel on earth - that's you. Love, me.

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) about 6 years ago

Mel, did it last week! So...what is it up to?? You are the personification of best friend....

Posted by Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate, "Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905 (John L Scott Market Center) about 6 years ago

Melinda, Looks like you got your lucky star. Good for you.

Posted by Donald Hester, NCW Home Inspections, LLC (NCW Home Inspections, LLC) about 6 years ago


Posted by Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS, Tacoma Washington Agent/Broker & Market Authority! (RE/MAX Northwest.) about 6 years ago

Mel, Just to let you know that I highlighted you in "My Favorites" for last week. Here is the link:


Posted by Helen and Larry Prier- Re-Max Gateway - Residential Real Estate, Anacortes & surrounding Skagit & Island Counties (RE-MAX Gateway- Residential Real Estate Sales) about 6 years ago

Hello Friends!  After a crazy whirlwind week, and feeling slightly under the weather, I'm back to give an update on the Larson Family Fund.  We've raised over $16K in less than a week (as Gayle Rich Boxman's grandma used to say... I'm quietly proud!).  Many of you have re-blogged this story and/or donated to the cause... I can't tell you how touched I am by your heartfelt love and generosity!  Thank you soooo much!!!

We've reached our first financial milestone by raising enough funds to secure a rental home for the family in the Conejo Valley.  We're hoping to move the family in the next couple of weeks.  After that, it's our goal to continue to raise money to pay for housing and basic needs for the Larson Family for 1 year.  

If you feel led to join us in our efforts, you can continue to help by sharing the link (below) on your social media sites whenever you can (and of course, you can donate too!).  Thank you again for Paying It Forward and being A Community That Cares!  The Larson Family is deeply touched! 

Blessings ~ Mel



Posted by Melinda (Mel) Peterson, Curator of Happy Endings (Real Estate Cafe LLC) about 6 years ago

Melinda, looks like Gold Star Fairy made it up to you!  

Posted by Patricia Kennedy, Home in the Capital (RLAH Real Estate) about 6 years ago